The best Love you can ever give is to
yourself! Yes, Self-Love is the best love you can ever
give. Huh? But isn't that selfish?
No, I'm not talking about having two
candy bars and not sharing one with another.
What I'm getting ready to show you, is
you can never love another unconditionally, until you love yourself as
so.
Do you love yourself? Take this
short quiz, yes or no answers and see.
Do you forgive
others? Really forgive others?
Yes or No?
Did you answer yes? Okay, but do
you REMEMBER everything another did to you, that offended you, or have
you let it go?
If you remember what they did, then you
haven't forgiven them. Though you may never tell them verbally,
they sense it, so you cannot give them love unconditionally, because
they FEEL that you haven't forgiven them for deed #23 that they did
YEARS ago, or yesterday.
Why can't you forgive others?
Because you don't forgive yourself, for whatever judgments you hold
upon yourself. If you want to forgive others, so you can truly
love them, and set them free of the bondages you hold them in, you
must forgive yourself.
Are you happy
overall? A better question is do you have joy?
Happiness depends upon good circumstances that are happening right
now. Joy does not. It is persistent in the good and the
bad.
Yes or No?
Did you answer no? Why, because
your circumstances aren't good? Or maybe you can't
"see" the good in your circumstances? If you truly
look at your circumstances and INTENTIONALLY look for blessings in
them, then you can "see" the good.
Do you focus on the
good?
Yes or No?
No? You focus on the bad?
Why? Could it be you don't think you DESERVE the good? So
you can't allow yourself to have the good. That's coming back to
forgiving yourself of your own judgments.
When you don't allow yourself good, you
rob those of who you love of good. How? Through your
envy. You lean on them to be your source of joy. No one
can give you JOY - but yourself. If they don't give you the joy,
then you resent them. You get mad at them. Look at me, I'm
sad over here, and you don't care, and you don't even want to try to
fix it! When in reality, it is YOU who doesn't want to try to
fix it. They CAN'T fix it. You have to do it, but you have
to CHOOSE to fix it.
Do you make sacrifices
for the one's you love?
Yes or No?
Yes? Then you need to read my Sacrifices
for Love? article and see the truth behind making
sacrifices. When you make sacrifices for others you are NOT
loving them. You are betraying them through a guise of love that
is not real. You think it's real, but they find
out in the most painful way, that it is not. You can fool
yourself, but you can't fool the ones you love for long. You end
up hurting them.
Do you get sick often,
or have health problems often?
Yes or No?
Yes? Your health is a
manifestation of your thoughts. If your thoughts are negative,
you're not loving yourself, and your body reflects that.
Are you hurting most of
the time emotionally? Do you feel unloved, like nobody
cares?
Yes or No?
Yes? That's a HUGE BILLBOARD sign
that you are lacking Self-Love!
No matter how many people loved you, no
matter how PERFECTLY they loved you, will never see, nor feel, nor
experience it. Why? Remember those circumstances?
You don't "see" the good, nor to you focus on the
"good". It doesn't matter if the one that loves you,
gives you 99% good in the love - you're going to see the 1% of bad,
and you're going to focus on that. And then you're going to
resent them for that 1%, because you're not going to let it go, and
you're not forgive them. You're going to focus on that bad and
seethe in it.
Now here comes the unforgivable - then
that person should love you 100% in good. God does. Do you
KNOW that? Do you truly believe that? Do you FEEL that
100% of the time? If you did, you wouldn't be miserable.
So, see another human can't do that for you, when God does and you
don't see it. You can't even feel and experience the wonderful
love of God, because you're lacking self love.
Aren't you tired of missing out?
Answer this honestly.
What can you do to
learn to love yourself?
First of all you need to decide, are
you happy with the way things are for you now? Have you been in
the past? No? Then it's time for change.
Can you make that change? Yes,
you can! Here's the hard question - WILL you make that
change? The choice is yours, it's up to you.
We all like to think we are victims of
circumstance. We fail to realize we make choices that lead us to
be the so called victims of circumstances. Remember your health,
that's a physical manifestation of your negative thoughts. And
you thought you had no control over your health. Well, now you
see do! I'm not talking about big stuff - I'm talking about your
day to day health. The big stuff like cancer - is a choice you
made to experience before you were born.
If you CHOSE to make
the change, here are some steps you can take.
Get some therapy. Many times
there are deep rooted problems going as far back as your childhood
that inhibit you to love yourself. I'm not talking drug therapy
either. Support groups are great, but they don't really offer
solutions. Go see a real therapist!
If you can't afford one, start looking
on the internet, for self help, self love and such, or in your local
library. You'll be amazed, when you start reading, the things
you will be able to relate to. And all along you thought you
were all alone. You'll see that you're not.
But I go back to get some
therapy. I'm concerned that you may not love yourself enough to
do some research to help yourself.
Don't make the mistake of thinking this
will go away, especially if you have been suffering for a long
time. You need help, help from others. You have to be
willing to ask for that help. If you don't, you'll continue to
neglect and reject yourself, and you'll continue to suffer, and you'll
continue to hurt your loved ones because they don't understand.
Give your loved ones some credit - they are NOT therapists!!
Don't drain them of their health for yours. That's selfish -
that's NOT self love.
Example - self love - a mother who has
a newborn child. If the mother loves herself, she will take care
of herself, such as eat, drink fluids, and get some rest. In so
doing, she is able to love and take care of her child.
If the mother doesn't love herself, and
sacrifices eating her meals, and getting rest, then she's too weak to
take care of the child, and so tired and aggravated, she doesn't enjoy
nor wants to take care of the child.
Picture this - you've sacrificed your
meal to feed your baby right now, who is crying. You are hungry,
you drink the baby's bottle. Who would do that?
You do it! You do it, by leaning
on your family, friends, or lovers to provide you happiness. You
have to be the source of that happiness. They cannot be the
source. In taking care of that baby, you are the source of the
provisions, you wouldn't switch the roles and make the baby be the
source, but you do this spiritually. Now you can see with this
example, this does NOT work.
You have to love and take care of
yourself, before you can love and take care of another.
How long must you suffer with what's
NOT working to be willing to do something about it.
Now, don't say, I've tried this and
I've tried that. Okay, this and that didn't work. What
have you NOT tried - TRY IT! It just may work! And that's
what you do, you keep trying to you find what DOES work!
Persisting in what doesn't is futile.
Here's another thought.
God loves you.
Do you love Him, or Spirit, or Goddess,
or whatever you call the Higher Being of Love and Light?
Yes?
Well this Higher Being of Love and
Light is INSIDE you! If you really love this Being - then you
must love YOU to really do it!
Love yourself!! Get some
help! There is no shame in doing so. Not getting help is a
shame, a shame for your loss, and your loved ones' loss.
My
love to you and God
bless!
In His Joy,
Seqkat
Update! Recommended Further Reading - right here for your
convenience:
HEAVEN #1582 If You Knew How to Love… March 5, 2005
God said:
If you knew how to love, wouldn't you? Wouldn't you bless every thing and every being in the world if you knew how to love? What would dismay you when you knew how to love and knew you knew and knew you were proficient at it?
Love comes to play in the little matters as well as the big. Love is not this huge drama you may have thought. Love is where you are coming from. Now is the time for you to know the love you are, and then allow yourself to be it.
Love is not someone else, and love is not circumstances. Circumstances may pull your love out or push it back, yet love cannot be stemmed. The tide of love is mighty, and it is yours. You are the love the world seeks.
Your love matters. Even if you live in a little room somewhere and never went out, your love matters. Even if there is no window in the little room, wherever you are is love. Your own love may have been undiscovered. Certainly you haven't discovered it, or, if you have, you haven't honored it.
When you love, you do not dissuade yourself of annoyances. You do not deny annoyance. You merely step over annoyance as you would a puddle. You don't stare at the puddle. You don't order it to go away. You merely step over it or walk around it.
In terms of your life, the other side of the puddle is love. Cross over the puddle. The puddle doesn't have to have the power to make your love sputter. You simply move towards love. This is your intention. You do not give a backward glance to the puddles of annoyance. You have stepped over them.
Let your intention today be that you come from love. Not from cleverness, not from ego, not from despair, not from anything but love. You have this intention now. Consider it like a shirt you put on. You only have to put in on once today, and then it's on, and it takes care of itself. You don't have to remind yourself that your shirt is on. It stays on by itself.
And so today intend to dissolve whatever occurs in love. You have enough love to do this for the world. The world knows it needs something, and it waits for it. You do not wait to give it. Where there is a lack of love, a glance from you will fill that empty space. There is not anyone or anything on Earth that does not want more of your love. Love is neutral. It blends in. Your love is wanted, but your particular love is vast and, in one sense, it has nothing to do with you. It emanates from you, yet it is My love you pass on. There really is no difference in love. Love is love, whatever the instrument of it, and whatever its style.
Love is like pure mountain water. Wherever it flows, it is the same love.
Your love acknowledges Oneness.
Your love doesn't have to be an act of love. Love will beam from you. It will be felt. It will be received. Silently you can give love, and it will be heard. He who hears your love may hear it as a far-off song coming from he knows not where. The thing is, no matter how faint, he hears it.
The song of love you sing is My song. You heard it first from Me. You carried the tune of love along with Me. First you hummed and finally you burst into song. I hear you singing now.
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