Do
you love someone so much that you sacrifice things for them? Do
you give whatever it is you must give so they will be happy?
You're so very willing to sacrifice anything for their
happiness?
Let's
shed some light on this. In actuality, if you SACRIFICE to give
to another that you love, then you're NOT giving to them out of pure
love from your heart.
Huh?
When you give to another with pure love from your heart, you don't
consider it to be a sacrifice. You don't even think about
it. You just give.
That's
called Loving Unconditionally.
When
you sacrifice to give to another, who you say you are loving, then you
hold that sacrifice over their head. You are now charging them a
cost for that sacrifice.
How?
You want RECOGNITION, "See I love you so much, I sacrificed, and
did without, so that you could have..." And for how long do
you charge them this cost?
To
whomever you sacrificed whatever, they don't want
it. The cost is not worth it.
Don't
blame yourself if you're doing this. There is a deep rooted
reason, you're doing this - you lack SELF love, so you try to get love
from another through doing whatever you can, and that is to include
sacrificing. See my article, Unloved?
for help in learning how to love yourself to heal yourself from the
illusion of your need to sacrifice.
Many
people think Jesus sacrificed His life so others could have
life. That is man's term. Jesus did not sacrifice His life
- He gave it up, willingly, because He loved. When He was tried
and went to the cross, did He say, "Look at me, look at what I'm
giving up for you?" No! He was silent. He was a
true Master that shared His love unconditionally.
Test
yourself. What have you sacrificed lately? How many times,
since you sacrificed whatever, have you complained about the
consequences of your sacrifice to them or to others?
Yes,
you did indeed sacrifice something. You sacrificed whatever it
was you gave up, but then you sacrificed your loved one too.
You put them on a cross and crucify them with your complaints.
That cost is the heaviest cost for anyone to ever pay. Because
there is such a fine line of love here, that when you sacrifice for
another, you let down the one you love, and you hurt them. They
feel betrayed. They thought you gave because you loved them, but
then they discover, you gave to gain favor and power to hold over
them. That is the most painful betrayal ever.
Have
you been victimized by one who makes "sacrifices" for
you. Come away today, feeling a little better. It is not
about you, though the pain hurts deeply. It is about them.
They lack self love. Here's the hard part for you. They
did this because they lack self love, they really didn't do it to hurt
you. Your role in this is to forgive them, and let it go, and do
not take it personally.
My
love to you and God
bless!
In His Joy,
Seqkat
Recommended
Reading on the subjects:
Online
-
http://www.innerself.com/Essays/abuse_guilt.htm
http://www.kenpage.com/a_collection/sending.html
http://www.kenpage.com/creationtechniques/love.html
Books
-
The
Mastery of Love - by Don Miguel Ruiz
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to buy the book now, click here - get it used for less money! Buy
it Now!
The
Four Agreements - by Don Miguel Ruiz (This one will help the
victims!)
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it Now!
