"Once
I thought I was wrong, but I was mistaken." 
Now,
that's a fun oxymoron that I used to wear as a button pinned to my
jacket way back, when I was in high school.
We
are all so very equal. We ALL make mistakes.
Now,
that we have made a mistake - what to do? The first reaction you
are probably experiencing is regret - and that can be good, initially.
How?
Embracing regret leads to good in that with it, you can learn NOT to make that mistake again, if it is your goal to avoid repeating those repercussions.
Now,
here's where it gets hard. We all have the tendency to then wallow
in regret. That is not helpful.
If you wallow in regret, with the "I should haves", "Why didn't I?", "If only I had..." - these are a waste of time. There is no rewind button. Physically, there's no going back and doing what you should have, so it only leads to mental and emotional anguish to go there in your mind.
Embrace the regret to learn from it - then LET IT GO. Do not keep re-punishing yourself for your mistake. What is done is done. It's water under the bridge. Now it's time to do the best you can to not repeat that mistake, even if the repercussions last from a small moment, to years, to perhaps even a lifetime. Don't let those long lasting repercussions doom you to wallow in regret.
Easier
said than done - right? Meditate, pray, go within and find God,
Spirit, or whom ever it is you find your peace, and ask for
help. Help is waiting for your beckon.
Now what about the judgments others may place upon you for your misdeed? Who hasn't made a mistake? We all have. They are thinking they are better than you, if they choose to judge you - and guess what that does - that SHOWS they are NOT! So, think nothing of it.
What about God's judgment of your misdeed? Please read my article,
"What About Judgment?"
I highly recommend it, if you are warring with guilt, worry and fear.
Do
you have a loved one that has made a dire mistake? Please, do
NOT punish them with your judgments and scorn. They are
suffering enough with the repercussions, and their own
self-punishment. It is time to heal. They need your love
and support now, more than ever to heal from that mistake.
Remember, you too have made mistakes. Don't think that their
mistake is worse than any of yours. A mistake is a mistake,
simply put. Any mistakes being worse than others is a matter of
perspective and values.
Here's
an example. If my children get a "C" on their report
card in a subject that is a little difficult for them, or with a
teacher that doesn't teach very well, I'm okay with that, and tell
them they've done a good job. There are some parents that a
"C" is absolutely unacceptable under any
circumstances. See how it's the SAME grade - but the values and
perspectives are DIFFERENT.
It's
the same with mistakes - mistakes are mistakes. It's only our
values and perspectives that make them worse or better than
others. So, again, I repeat - remember, you have made mistakes,
keep that in mind to love and support a loved one that has made a
mistake. This is not the time for "I told you so's..."
Actually there should NEVER be a time for "I told you so's..."
because they are simply tactics of revenge - you being right and your
loved one being wrong. In my perspective - that is cruel,
because you are causing your loved one pain.
Now,
if you are the victim of abuse from your loved one, or another is a
victim of abuse from your loved - GET OUT and GET HELP. This is
entirely a different situation from what I am discussing here.
This discussion is not about you "forgiving - and thus
supporting" continued and repetitive abuse. To show love in
this regard is to get the love one some help and out of the place of
power to continue to abuse.
Otherwise,
remember, if you are the one who made a mistake - do NOT wallow in
regret. You are still a being of love and always will be, and
thus you will always be loved by God. You are worthy of that
love. You are worthy of compassion - and think about it, if you
hadn't made the mistake, you would not qualify for that
"compassion".
I offer you peace and love.
My
love to you and God
bless!
In His Joy,
Seqkat
Recommended Further Reading - right here for your
convenience:
HEAVEN #1603 The Secret of Life March 26, 2005
God said:
Suffering seems to be a recurrent theme in worldly life. It seems to have an ascendancy. It is a prime focus, the suffering itself and the escape from it. Surely, life on Earth must be about more than the presence or absence of suffering.
Suffering has starred in the world.
Substitute love for suffering. Love will take the sting away. It is only the body that can suffer anyway. And ego. Keep your body and let go of ego. Your body is the car you ride in. Ego is all the extras. Ego is not necessary to the running of the car. In fact, ego uses up your fuel and gets you nowhere.
Of course, it is your mind that tells you stories. It tells you that suffering is your destiny. Suffering and the voice of your ego affirm that suffering is your destiny at the same time they tell you it is unjust. You rebel, and your thoughts encourage suffering to last, and ego jabs you in the ribs.
Substitute love for ego. When you feel anxious or annoyed or in pain about someone or something or yourself, remember love. Turn anxiety and fretfulness into love. You can do it. All you have to do is think of love, and sense of love will enter your cells and dilute some of your fear. Unequivocally, love will take your mind off fear. Look upon the face of love rather than the back of fear.
Once your awareness has started on the course of love, your uneasiness will ease. Love will flow through you like water down a hill.
More love is needed in the world, and you are needed to express it.
What did Christ do but that? Express love. No condition or circumstance took him away from love. He was a simple man of love. And it was love he expressed no matter what was going on around him.
What else is worth expressing, beloveds? What else is not a waste of time and life? Gratitude is not a waste, but what is gratitude but a form of love? Peace is not a waste, but what is peace but the settling in of love? Generosity is not a waste, for it is a giving of love and a statement of Oneness.
Impatience, anger, accomplishment, petulance, fright, pressure, adoration of restrictions, on the other hand, fritter way your life. With less than love, you become a piece of wood in the hands of an idle woodcarver who chips away at you. In this case, you are the idle woodcarver..
And you are not a piece of wood to be whittled. You are a Human Being made of love. Love does not have feathers that need to be unruffled. Love does not have rancor. You do not need to be recreated. In what can you be recreated? Is there an image better than Mine?
You are a heart within a heart within a heart of love. The depths of love are infinite. Your depths are infinite. Beloveds, you haven't even scratched the surface. The well of love within you is deep. It is bigger than the universe. As great as the universe is, the love within you is greater. Love transcends and transforms everything you can think of. Nothing else does.
If you want to know the secret of life, it is no secret, it is love. So let your love roll. Let it get out of the crevices of your heart and greet the world that so longs for it. You long for your love too. And, all the while, it's right here within your beating heart. Heretofore, there has been only a trickle of love from your heart. Let the greater love within you now elope with you. Let love be your partner in all endeavors. Let love takes its rightful place. Surely love has more right than anything else.
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