Is this really appropriate for Spiritualville?
Well, destructive relationships pain the soul, while joyful relationships are
healthy. So, yes indeed it's appropriate!
The main reason Guys and
Gals find it hard to get along is because us Gals are so secretive about our
needs. We leave you Guys in the dark, and then we resent you for
not taking care our needs. We are so unfair this way. So, this Gal
is going to let the cat out of the bag and divulge our secrets. Guys, if you but read this and take some mental notes,
and apply what you read you're on your way
to a happier relationship! And I promise to keep this SHORT and
SIMPLE! Because it really is very simple. In fact it really boils
down to three little secrets.
Wouldn't it be great to have your woman loving
you fully, not fussing at your faults, and giving her all to you?
You can so very easily have this, if you but
come to comprehend the following:
When women are in love they are blind to faults
with whom they are in love, and they will give all they have with whom they
are in love.
*But my woman does love me, but she
b*tches at
me all the time, and when I'm in the mood for a little bedroom fun, she's not
interested.
We women do have one problem - we have to be
CONSTANTLY reminded, we're in love. And the memory refresher they are
seeking is romance.
*Oh my God, now I got to go spend tons of money
to wine and dine her.
Nope! All you really have to spend is a
little of your time. If you spend a little of your time, just a very
little, romancing her,
she will spend a great deal of time, dreaming and thinking of you, and will
want to offer all of herself. She won't want to complain to you, she'll
become blind to your faults, and she'll actually smile, while doing tedious
normal chores, with warm thoughts of you in her mind.
Here are the key elements a woman needs in her
relationship with a man. It doesn't matter, if you've just started
dating, or if you've been married for 15 years, she still needs the following:
A - She needs to feel loved - that means she
needs to HEAR you tell her that, and not with just the words I love you, but
she needs to hear that she is beautiful to you, and what she does for you,
that you cherish. The more detailed
descriptions you give the more she melts. To her feeling loved is also
to feel appreciated. TELL her how you appreciate her - don't keep it
bottled inside. When you SPEAK your love to her, then she's very
receptive of your loving touch, and she multiplies that loving touch with your
words and loves you even more. Without the words - she's prone to reject
the touch and resent you.
B - She needs to feel secure in her love with
you. Women have a fear that her man loves her today, but will drop her
tomorrow. She has to be CONSTANTLY reminded of Letter
A above - so you
must practice Letter A above OFTEN with her - several times a week - the
more the better. And yes, this applies to married couples too!
Yes, we may be silly this way, but we are this way, none-the-less.
*But she smothers me! If I do
Letter A - she'll stifle me!
Actually, it's when you're NOT doing Letter
A, that she stifles you, because she doesn't know how you are feeling,
because you are NOT telling her, and she's panic stricken in her fears that
you are going to drop her, so she grabs you and clings to you in desperation
to not lose you. If you remove her fears of losing you, then she has no
reason to stifle you. She'll be comfortable to give you your space,
because she feels secure.
*Why can't my woman just TELL me this
then?? If she had, I would've been doing this all along!
C - A woman feels if she has to tell you
about Letter A and Letter B
- that's NOT romantic. Women are
instinctive and they look for their men to be just as instinctive to this, but
regrettably we are the victors in this department, but we detest holding this
victory alone. We want you to come to realize this on your own, but
sadly we remain speechless to tell you. Then there we go again, off to
our resentment that you haven't figured this out, then we forget we are so in
love with you, and your faults come to shore, and your advances we
reject. Silly we are about this, but this is how we are again,
none-the-less.
Apply Letter A and
Letter B in your
relationship with the understanding of Letter
C so that you're woman
doesn't have to tell you, and you'll sweep her off her feet, and
both you and her will enjoy a loving and rewarding relationship.
It really is easy to "Really
Love a Woman" - read the lyrics to that song by Bryan Adams -
they speak the secrets of your woman's soul!
Gals,
if you're reading this, you may have recognized some of your very
personal fears here. Light has been cast into the darkness of
confusion. Take some heart, with what you have learned.
Just because you are not *hearing* through verbal or even non-verbal
expression and affection from your Guy, it doesn't mean he has
dropped his love for you. He just may not realize the fears us
Gals have.
To
love in your relationships - God
bless!
