Cats by nature are NOT social animals. They do NOT hang in packs,
like dogs do. They choose to live in solitaire.
Once you understand that, then you'll understand, when a cat DOES
let you pet it or hold it - it truly is a gift of honor.
So, is there no hope for you? Definitely not! The Cat doesn't let
you hold it or pet it, because that is exactly what YOU want to do,
and not give the Cat the space he desires. So, he now has a fear of
you making these demands and he quickly tries to escape.
Give the Cat that space - that is, feed it, talk to it, and coo it -
WITHOUT touching the cat at all. After about a week (it could take
longer - be patient the rewards are priceless), the Cat will figure
out, you're not demanding to hold it or touch it, and you'll
discover the Cat is now following you around from room to room. He
doesn't fear being in your company now, because he no longer fears
you making demands of him of which he is uncomfortable.
Now, keep giving this space, and soon, you'll notice Kitty rubbing
up against your legs, (the Cat is now touching you!!), or he'll sit
beside you or he may even dare to get into your lap! Kitty now is so
comfortable around you, he has developed a deeper trust in you, that
he is comfortable to pet you now. When he shows you this comfort,
pet him - just a little bit. Don't demand to hold it.
As your bond grows - always offer your hand to Kitty first. If he
responds, by touching your hand with his mouth, (usually he rubs his
face against it, marking his scent upon you - he owns you,
remember?), then it's okay to pet him. If you always ask Kitty first
to pet him in this way, he most likely will always oblige!
Now, some kitties, are very lovey - but absolutely detest being
held. Don't hold that kitty. That just frustrates your relationship.
I have one like this. She sleeps with me, on my legs, gets in my
lap, gets under the cover and often sleeps on my stomach or (my
butt, if I sleeping on my stomach) - but she cannot stand being
held. So, I enjoy all the company she will allow me, and I do not
hold her. We are the best of buddies.
Cats are like people - we all have our own unique personalities.
Some people like to hug more than others. You know you don't hug the
person, who takes offense to this - so don't hold the Cat who takes
offense to this!
Do you
have ANY questions, or need help with Kitty? Feel free to
email me here:
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Need Kitty Help!
To yours and Kitty's purrfect relationship! God bless!
In His Joy,
Seqkat
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